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One of the biggest errors that is in vogue today, is the idea that God doesn’t judge.  But is it any wonder?

We have a generation of young adults who had a great hand in raising themselves.  These are the ‘latchkey’ kids of not too many years past.  Kids who came home, after school, to an empty house because both parents were working.  These kids obtained freedom at a very early age.  The majority of their time was spent in school, and with their peers–and these were the dominant influences in shaping their perspectives.

Mom and Dad, in most cases, were lenient by default, because they simply couldn’t be there to see what their child was getting into.   And, to try to compensate their kids for their lack of involvement, and justify their absence, many gifts and opportunities were showered upon them.

But what has been the result of such parenting?  How has this shaped the perspective of these kids?  (I was not one of these children, but what follows are my opinions.)

I believe that these kids see authority as something that you can get around.  If you don’t leave a trail, you won’t get caught.  If you project success, you have a much better chance of convincing people that you are living uprightly.  But I believe a lot of these kids had, and still have, double lives–the outward life for authority figures to see, and the secret sinful life where they really live.

I believe these kids feel entitled to all things, just because they exist.  They believe they are entitled to success, prosperity, and happiness–because Dad and Mom bent over backwards to see that they had it.  I believe their family interactions centered around the lavishing of gifts upon them, and the ‘building of their self esteem’ (lest they realize that Mom and Dad were shortchanging them of something that is truly priceless–themselves, and their time).  In other words, I believe their family life was imbalanced and the time they spent with their parents was greatly skewed toward their gratification.

Now, is it any wonder that kids like this would believe that the world owes them a living?  Is it any wonder that they would believe that God lives merely to shine down upon them?  Is it any wonder that they believe it is God’s great pleasure to bring gifts to them and serve them?  After all, in their families, they were the masters and their parents were the servants . . .

And how could God possibly judge them?  They are used to having their ‘real life’ away from the prying eyes of Mom and Dad.  How they forget that God sees everything!  And, lest He should be angry with them about something–shouldn’t their arguments of self-justification appease Him?  (After all, Dad and Mom really didn’t want to be angry with them, and spoil those few hours they had together.  But, if that didn’t work, a few angry accusations to play upon their parents’ guilt would usually cause them to back off.)  If pushed, will they rail against God and hurl angry accusations at Him too?

We have a generation of young adults who have little comprehension of God’s diety, His authority, or His judgment.  Is it any wonder that they adopt false religions whose god portrays himself as a god of love, tolerance, and peace?  When this god begins to attack Jehovah, portraying Him as an angry, cruel, intolerant, judgmental being–is it any wonder that they will believe the lie?

I am not writing this to shame parents who raised their kids this way.  That issue is something for you to prayerfully take to God.  The point that I am trying to make is that sin always, eventually leads us into the devil’s camp.  We may not understand why God wants us to do things a certain way–but disobey, and let it play out for fifty years or so, and it will be evident why.

For those of you who still believe God is unbendingly strict, let me remind you: the devil prowls about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.  Given that is the world into which we are born, does it not make sense that God would have many guidelines in place to keep us safe?  Sure, it hurts God when we disobey, when we step outside of the boundaries He has placed for us, when we are injured, or devoured–but WE are the ones who really lose.  We, and our children, and our children’s children . . .

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Since we have a president who is hell-bent on imposing his agenda on the American people, against the will of more than half of them, I think it is important to get a better understanding of the man.  Hopefully, knowing what ‘makes him tick’ will counter some of the shock and discouragement we face, as he continues to battle conservative Americans.

Although I am not trained in psychology or psychiatry, I am giving my opinion:

I am fully convinced that Barack Obama is a narcissist.

Hotchkiss [Hotchkiss, Sandy & Masterson, James F. Why Is It Always About You? : The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism (2003)]  identified what she called the seven deadly sins of narcissism:

  1. Shamelessness – Shame is the feeling that lurks beneath all unhealthy narcissism, and the inability to process shame in healthy ways.
  2. Magical thinking – Narcissists see themselves as perfect using distortion and illusion known as magical thinking. They also use projection to dump shame onto others.
  3. Arrogance – A narcissist who is feeling deflated may reinflate by diminishing, debasing, or degrading somebody else.
  4. Envy – A narcissist may secure a sense of superiority in the face of another person’s ability by using contempt to minimize the other person.
  5. Entitlement – Narcissists hold unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable treatment and automatic compliance because they consider themselves uniquely special. Any failure to comply will be considered an attack on their superiority and the perpetrator is considered to be an “awkward” or “difficult” person. Defiance of their will is a narcissistic injury that can trigger narcissistic rage.
  6. Exploitation – can take many forms but always involves the using of others without regards for their feelings or interests. Often the other is in a subservient position where resistance would be difficult or even impossible. Sometimes the subservience is not so much real as assumed.
  7. Bad Boundaries – narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that others are separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet their needs or may as well not exist at all. Those who provide narcissistic supply to the narcissist will be treated as if they are part of the narcissist and be expected to live up to those expectations. In the mind of a narcissist, there is no boundary between self and other.

(from Wikipedia: ‘Narcissism’)

“Narcissism can be a considered a self-perceived form of perfectionism. Narcissists often are pseudo-perfectionists and require being the center of attention and create situations where they will receive attention.[6] This attempt at being perfect is cohesive with the grandiose self-image that the narcissist has of him-/herself. If a perceived state of perfection isn’t reached it can lead to guilt, shame, anger or anxiety because he/she believes that he/she will lose the imagined love and admiration from other people if he/she isn’t perfect.[7]”

(from Wikipedia: ‘Narcissistic Rage’)

I don’t think one has to look too deeply at Obama’s childhood to find possible reasons for a boy to feel intense shame: Biracial, absent father, dark skinned but raised by whites, etc..   I think a well-meaning person, who dearly loved this little boy, may have attempted to counter his shame by unwittingly training him to think as a narcissist thinks: overcompensating on building his self-esteem, and actively putting the blame on others.

But he is not alone.  He is just a forerunner of a generation of children with similar stories, raised in a similar way:  Absent fathers, self-absorbed or over-compensating mothers, educational philosophies that overcompensated in building kids’ self-esteem, etc.  Consequently, we have raised a generation  that will prove to have an inordinate number of narcissists and sociopaths, and with most of them having a profound sense of entitlement and an over-inflated sense of their own importance (think ‘divas’ and ‘goddesses’).   Being the forerunner of this generation, it is no wonder that Obama’s message resonated with them.

(Any anger you sense from me is directed towards those who deprived these kids of truth and the ability for honest self-examination.)


Anyhow . . . although I think all of the traits are there, ‘arrogance’ stands out (there was a lot of diminishing, debasing, and degrading of the opposition by Obama, during the healthcare bill fiasco, as his approval numbers kept dropping), as does ‘exploitation’ (as he seems oblivious to the feelings and interests of a large majority of Americans, who oppose the healthcare bill).

But most of all, ‘entitlement’ seems to take center stage:

“Narcissists hold unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable treatment and automatic compliance because they consider themselves uniquely special. Any failure to comply will be considered an attack on their superiority and the perpetrator is considered to be an “awkward” or “difficult” person. Defiance of their will is a narcissistic injury that can trigger narcissistic rage.”

Within minutes of passing the bill, lawsuits were filed to challenge it’s constitutionality.  Then, yesterday, a supreme court justice decided it would be a good time to retire.  Here is my conjecture:

  • I think Obama ‘had a little talk’ with the justice, convincing him that now would be a good time to go.
  • I think whoever Obama appoints is going to be intended as a punishment to his opponents.
  • And, although he looks unfazed, Obama is seething on the inside.

Filing a challenge to his healthcare bill displays defiance, rather than compliance, which he sees as an attack on his authority and superiority, and it may very well trigger narcissistic rage.  (I was pretty confident we’d be seeing it sooner or later–and I think there is a rough road ahead for conservatives, because I expect him to escalate his battle.)  I am curious as to whether his rage will be open and evident, or passive-aggressive.

Apparently there are different types of narcissism, I believe this one fits him very well:

Aggressive narcissism

  • Glibness/superficial charm
  • Grandiose sense of self-worth
  • Pathological lying
  • Cunning/manipulative
  • Lack of remorse or guilt
  • Shallow affect
  • Callous/lack of empathy
  • Failure to accept responsibility for own actions.

(from Wikipedia: ‘Narcissism’)

Here is an explanation of ‘narcissistic rage’:

According to Kohut,[1] rages are a result of the shame at being faced with failure. Narcissistic rage is the uncontrollable and unexpected anger that results from a narcissistic injury. Narcissistic injury is a threat to a narcissist’s self-esteem or worth. Rage comes in many forms, but all pertain to the same important thing, revenge.

Narcissistic rages are based on fear and will endure even after the threat is gone.[5] To the narcissist, the rage is directed towards the person that they feel has slighted them; to other people, the rage is incoherent and unjust. This rage impairs their cognition, therefore impairing their judgment. During the rage they are prone to shouting, fact distortion and making groundless accusations. It is believed that narcissists have two layers of rage. The first layer of rage can be thought of as a constant anger (towards someone else), and the second layer being a self-aimed wrath. Two specific identified forms of narcissistic rage are explosive and passive-aggressive.

The explosive form being an obvious anger, for example, damaging property (or people) and being verbally abusive. The passive-aggressive sort might be sulking or giving their target the silent treatment. They can become enraged to the point of being homicidal especially if he/she has the need to seek revenge.[6] Narcissistic rage is usually short-term, but can provoke problems with those towards whom the anger is targeted.

(from Wikipedia: ‘Narcissistic Rage’)

We are all flawed.  It would be unreasonable to expect our leaders to be perfect.  But some flaws demand that we be especially watchful and vigilant.  If Obama is who I think he is, he could become a very dangerous man if he doesn’t get his way.  The next time we win a battle with him, consider that, and don’t cheer quite so loudly.

Update 7/12/10

another interesting post about ‘People of the Lie’

I have heard that the National Health Care plan is to be set up in such a way that results in young people paying more than older people.  The reasoning? Not sure about that, but I can see one benefit to those who are pushing the bill: many older, less healthy people may breathe a sigh of relief because they can’t afford higher payments, and will be less likely to oppose the bill.  We’d better look farther though, and not yield to that temptation.

Most young people  enjoy good health but have low income.  Why should they pay more?  They should not inherit our problems.  Ultimately, we failed to provide for our own old age, before these young adults were ever born!

The Bible tells us to discipline our children, but warns against provoking them to wrath!  What provokes children to wrath?  Injustice!

I will mince no words.  If we approve  of binding such an unjust burden upon the young people of America–we will ultimately reap what we sow: euthanasia.

Do any of you who wonder:  Why would Obama turn on the young people who, overwhelmingly, voted for him?

Here is my opinion:  He knows he has their unquestioning adoration, and they see him as a peer.  The blame will not fall on him, it will fall on ‘the opposition’ (whoever opposes Obama and his agenda), and upon those who will benefit from this unjust system: the sick and the elderly.

This president and his cabinet, czars, etc.  have caused more division in America than anything, or anyone, that I have seen in my lifetime, or can remember from history!  He knows exactly how to play into the entitlement mentality of today’s young people to win them over.  Once their loyalty is won, he and his people add their own discontent and rebellion to the discontent, anger, and fear of the young. They provoke and magnifying the discontent of the young, to help accomplish their revolution.

I don’t think it is an oversight that the National Health Care system was set up in this manner.  The whole thing is a HUGE Trojan horse, full of provisions to ensure the complete overthrow of America as we have known it.  This is why Obama is so adamant that it must be passed!  This embodies his agenda. (See my prevous post: Will America’s New Health Care ID Card Eventually Morph Into ‘The Mark Of  The Beast’?)

When this man took his seat in the White House, America began to crack and divide:  Democrat against Republican, Liberal against Conservative, Black against White, Son against Father, Poor against Rich.

A nation divided against itself cannot stand!  This administration is getting its inspiration and direction straight from Hell!  We know that it is Satan’s nature to steal, kill and destroy, so it is obvious he’s behind this.

We need to be wise, strategic, and HONORABLE.  Don’t let fear and greed tempt you to betray the young in order to effect your own security!  Yes, we need health care reform, but don’t rob someone else to get it!!



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