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As a parent, it is important to be proactive.  Most of us don’t like confrontation . . . but some things in life MUST be confronted.  Here’s the thing about confrontation:  the earlier you do it, the less of a ‘big deal’ it is.

Do you have a kid who is constantly asking to do things that you have to say ‘no’ to?  Do you then have to listen to them pitching a fit? Can I share some things I have learned as a former parent and former child?

I hope I am talking to someone who has a young child or preteen who is just starting to rebel.  The reason is, this can possibly be stopped in its tracks, before it gets out of hand.  Although not every child who rebels turns into a criminal and a drug addict . . . I would bet that nearly every criminal and drug addict started out by rebelling.  How tragic, that a lot of them could probably have been turned around early.

Here is what you need to understand: when your child comes and asks for your permission, it is pretty much a formality for them.  What they really want at that point, is just a rubber stamped seal of approval without any questions.  This is why they become so angry when you say ‘no’.

Here is why.  By the time your child comes to you for permission they have already considered the ‘opportunity’ they are being invited to participate in, have passed it through their own decision making process, and have then listened to the propaganda their friends give, in favor of it.

When they come to ask your permission they have already made up their mind that it is something they want to do.  Listen carefully–they are asking for your permission at this point, not your advice.

(Hear me out–I’m not going to say you should give in!!  I want to show what is happening . . . why the conflict is occurring. )

In order to short circuit this chain of events, you need to see the steps it goes through, so that you can stop it sooner.

  • The invitation is given  (who you allow your child to hang out with is going to be a big factor in the kind of invitations they get)
  • Your child considers the invitation, whether this is something they want to do
  • Your child’s conscience should react, if this is something they shouldn’t participate in
  • WHEN their conscience warns them, there are several paths they might choose.  Typically, they either:   1.  decide not to do it and don’t     2.  hesitate  (their uncertainty can invite pressure from their friends)     3.  push their conscience aside
  • If they hesitate, their friends persuade and pitch their propaganda in favor of doing it
  • Lastly, they ask permission

Kids are learning, in school, to use their own discernment and make their own decisions.  More and more, they are being encouraged to look to their peers for information and direction . . . and less and less are they being encouraged to ask their parents for wisdom.  In fact, some ‘educators’ purposely try to divorce children from their parents’ influence.  For these reasons it is IMPERATIVE that you teach your kids discernment!!

You need to be proactive and give your kids your guidance and opinions before they need them . . . because when they need them, paradoxically, they won’t ask for them or listen to them.  You need to teach them early so that they will ‘hear your voice in their head’ when they are faced with a decision.

I think, the best way to help correct your child’s bad decision making, is to go through this list and determine where the problem lies.  If you can correct the conditions that are causing your child to make the wrong choices, your child can instead learn to make wise choices.  After all, the best choice is a WISE choice that your child has made for him/herself!

The place to begin, is with your child’s conscience.  Does your child clearly know right from wrong, and good from bad?  What do you base these judgments on?  If you are a Christian, you should be teaching them, from the Bible, about what is right and wrong, good and bad.

There is so much emphasis in our culture on doing what seems right to you, or feels best to you, or what others are doing . . . there are probably MANY kids that don’t have a clear concept of right and wrong to anchor themselves too.  Make sure your child is securely anchored in truth!  Don’t just assume they know these things–start talking to them and find out what THEY think is right and wrong in different situations.

If they clearly know right from wrong, then it is critical to find out why they aren’t listening to their own conscience.  Is there a common thread to these incidents?  Does it usually involve a certain friends?  Is it something a particular authority figure is promoting?  Is it a fear of being different?

Make no mistake, bad company corrupts good character.  Sure, you may have a big confrontation over dis-allowing a certain friendship . . . but if this ‘friend’ is a negative influence on your child, you will be saving yourself many future confrontations and rebellion, and ultimately you may save your child’s life.  ‘Bad’ kids often go from bad to worse.  Don’t let them take your child along for the ride.

If the person who is pressuring your child is an adult–or worse, an authority figure, you may HAVE to confront that person. At the very least, you may have to rearrange things in your child’s life to eliminate, or minimize, that person’s authority over them.  God has placed you, as a parent, in the role of protector of your child.

This last one is going to be hard for some of you to hear.  If your child is afraid of being different, you are going to have to look at your own behavior.  In fact, for all of these possibilities you should consider your own behavior.  Do you have a sound basis for determining what is good and bad, right and wrong . . . or are you ‘wishy-washy’ about such things? Do you heed your own conscience? Do you allow yourself to be pressured by others, to do things you don’t want to do? Kids often model themselves after adults they look up to.  None of us is perfect.  We often grow alongside our children, it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

Anyways, back to peer pressure . . . peer pressure is another way of saying ‘fear of persecution’.  Here is another place for self examination . . . do you bend over backwards to make sure your child fits in?  If so, you may be (inadvertently) reinforcing their fear of persecution.  If you are a Christian parent, it is important that you equip your child to endure persecution . . . because Christians are promised that they will be persecuted.

Although a child’s rebellion can be exhausting and worrisome to deal with, it is something you CAN overcome. If you are constantly having confrontations with your child, it is usually a signal that something is wrong in their decision making process.

Identify your child’s weaknesses and help strengthen them in those areas.  What is manifesting as rebellion may be a lack of moral certainty, vulnerability to someone who is a bad influence, or fear of persecution.  You CAN help your child to overcome these vulnerabilities.

(The child that is TRULY a rebel is one that knows right from wrong but doesn’t care, and has no respect for [or fear of] authority or the opinions of others.  That is another story entirely, and probably requires a different type of help.  If you are struggling with that, please feel free to email me.)

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Here’s some more info on the people around Obama–in this case, the ones who influenced his identity and his political thinking.

In 1988 Obama travelled to Kenya to learn more about Barack Sr.’s family and identity.  He came away deeply affected by stories of  his grandfather’s abuse at the hands of the British. Whether or not this is when it began, it is pretty clear that Obama despises the British.

The real reason Obama loathes the British

As a young man, Obama was mentored by Frank Marshall Davis (a Communist pornographer, pedophile, bisexual swinger).  This relationship was a critically important precursor to Obama’s political career.

The links between Frank Marshall Davis, Obama, the Jarretts and the Communist Party

Democratic Socialists Of America

Democratic Socialists Of America logo

(The big question, still unanswered, is: how did Stanley Dunham (Obama’s grandfather) and Davis meet–what is their connection?)

The Men Who Surround Him

Who Really Pulls Obama’s Strings?

Where Are Bill And Bernardine Now?

(Continued from Part 2, ‘Amerika’)

There WILL BE one world government, ruled by the antichrist. I don’t want to see it happen, because I’ve read the end of the book–I KNOW how that turns out! While the Bible spells out much about what will take place, it doesn’t say that America has to be the seat of his power!

Sure, our currency reflects the designs that the freemasons have, for a world government that begins in America–but that is not prophecy! It is a hope, a plan, a goal of some–but God has not decreed it to happen.  America was ordained and established by God.  The plans of the corporate/government/banking alliance are already beginning to unravel–and with them goes the dollar.  How ironic that the design on the back of the dollar, reflecting their grand plan, will instead stand as a testament to failure.  When you oppose God, you lose.

Don’t be fooled by false ‘prophecies’–a prophecy is only as infallible as the one who ordains it! Maybe the Mayans somehow saw the future–or not. Maybe Nostradamus saw what would happen–or not, etc., etc., etc.

The Bible makes it clear that if a prophet is speaking God’s prophecies–he will never be wrong! If he is not 100% right in his prophecies, then they did not come from God. And if it doesn’t claim to be the word of God, then it is not even a prophecy. It is a goal, a hope, a fear, or an opinion!

If you are still not convinced that something new has settled upon our country, that there is a conspiracy unfolding, then look at the alliances Obama is making. He is snubbing our traditional white, imperialist allies and befriending dictators! Sure, you can say he is just trying to ‘establish a dialogue’ with them to bring about resolution to current conflicts–but that is just the cover! In fact, it isn’t even a cover. All of this is happening in plain sight, yet people do not see!

We currently have several world leaders, who have recently seized power from their people–Putin, Chavez, Zelaya. Elected democratically, they then changed the laws, enabling themselves to stay in office. Wake up please. It is happening in America now too!

If you don’t think he sympathizes with these dictators, look at his response to the heroic efforts of the Hondurans in ousting a leader who was doing the same thing he is–usurping power and violating the people’s constitutional rights! He sided with Zelaya and insists he should be returned from exile and placed back into power over the Honduran patriots!

And consider his lack of response to the brave freedom loving people in Iran who were protesting a fraudulent election. Silence, until he was repeatedly pushed to issue some kind of response– and even then it was lukewarm at best!

These are the people that Obama is befriending–bold, audacious men that take what they want by force. I believe he feels a kinship with these men because he has similar ambitions. In fact, I believe they are all auditioning for the position of world leader.

These are the philosophical allies of our president–and he is working to establish them as his political allies as well! Every move he makes is to court those who despise freedom and draw them into his circle of influence!

Look at his appointees-many of them are drawn from the ranks of the organizations he puts them in charge of overseeing! Do you not see that he is throwng the door open wide and letting the fox into the henhouse? And he welcomes people from every ideology that is opposed to America as we know it!

The status quo is under attack–and it probably should be! But the direction in which he is taking us instead is not towards honesty, transparency, justice, and equality. Those are his claims, but you must look at his actions! While he may cover his real convictions with the words we want to hear, the people he surrounds himself with don’t even attempt to veil their convictions!

It has struck me how he has told us, more or less, what he planned to do. His agenda is not deeply concealed. In fact, it is so obvious that it is hard to understand why people are not seeing what it is! Unlike previous administrations, his ambitions and design are all happening in plain sight-this is very unusual too! Here is why I believe that it is happening this way:

Whether or not he knows and intends that what he is putting in place in America will pave the way for the antichrist to have world dominion is not apparent at this time. However, there are deep spiritual involvements and implications here!

Understand, for example, that a person cannot be possessed without inviting it. There are spiritual laws that cannot be violated. So too, it would be a violation of spiritual laws for Satan to seize control of government on earth. However, he is free to persuade & deceive men to grant him the power that is rightfully theirs! So, he courts the leaders of the world’s people.

So, Obama is NOT violating spiritual laws in creating a government for the antichrist to control. He is doing this in plain sight to obtain the implied consent of the American people! He may say one thing, but we can see, if we choose to, what he is really doing. This protects the antichrist from being unseated on the grounds that he violated spiritual laws in obtaining his power. Therefore, if you have any objections to what is happening, you must act to oppose it now, while the power of government still belongs to the American people.

(Continued in Part 4, ‘The Witness’)