Tag Archive: shame


“And the LORD answered me: “Write the vision; make it plain upon tablets, so he may run who reads it.

For still the vision awaits its time; it hastens to the end–it will not lie. If it seem slow, wait for it; it will surely come, it will not delay.

Behold, he whose soul is not upright in him shall fail, but the righteous shall live by his faith.” (Habakkuk 2: 2-4)

shredded flag

“indeed, wine betrays him; he is arrogant and never at rest. Because he is as greedy as the grave and like death is never satisfied, he gathers to himself all the nations and takes captive all the peoples.

Will not all of them taunt him with ridicule and scorn, saying,“ ‘Woe to him who piles up stolen goods and makes himself wealthy by extortion! How long must this go on?’  Will not your creditors suddenly arise? Will they not wake up and make you tremble? Then you will become their victim.

Because you have plundered many nations, the peoples who are left will plunder you. For you have shed man’s blood; you have destroyed lands and cities and everyone in them.

“Woe to him who builds his realm by unjust gain to set his nest on high, to escape the clutches of ruin!

You have plotted the ruin of many peoples, shaming your own house and forfeiting your life.” (Habakkuk 2: 5-10)

““Woe to him who gives drink to his neighbors, pouring it from the wineskin till they are drunk, so that he can gaze on their naked bodies.” (Habakkuk 2: 15)

“You will be sated with contempt instead of glory. Drink, yourself, and stagger! The cup in the LORD’s right hand will come around to you, and shame will come upon your glory!” (Habakkuk 2: 16)

“The violence done to Lebanon* will overwhelm you; the destruction of the beasts will terrify you, for the blood of men and violence to the earth, to cities and all who dwell therein.” (Habakkuk 2: 17)

*to your beautiful forests (interpretation mine)

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Egyptian god of the dead statue

Egyptian god of the dead statue

““I am against you,” declares the Lord Almighty.  “I will lift your skirts over your face.  I will show the nations your nakedness  and the kingdoms your shame.”  Nahum 3: 5

Enough said?

Obama’s Army

Is God Judging America?

Who’s Your Daddy?

In spite of much ridicule towards ‘the birthers’ (those who question the eligibility of Obama to be president, based on lack of proof of U.S. birth), I have felt that there is a legitimate issue here.  However, my gut feeling is that rather than Obama being foreign-born, there is some other reason for his failure to produce a birth certificate.

It is believed that narcissism is a way that some people compensate for deep humiliation or shame that they endured as children.  There is little question that Obama is narcissistic.  My suspicion is that there may be a connection between his shame, and the circumstances surrounding his birth.

As I looked into the subject, I ran across some interesting ideas on other blogs.  I moved on, without saving the links, but found myself thinking a lot about some of the info. It was on my mind enough that I tried to replicate my searches to find the sites again, but I couldn’t.  What had stuck with me was a name: Frank Marshall Davis.  After not finding the original sites, I just looked for more info on him.

Frank Marshall Davis, if I remember correctly, was around the age of Obama’s grandfather (Stanley Dunham).  Apparently, before he went off to college, Obama’s grandparents handed him over to Davis to mentor him.  Now, I had not done any research on Stanley Dunham, but I had the impression that Obama was raised in a decent, stable, middle-class family–which happened to be white, since his mother was white.

Davis, on the other hand, seemed to be a seedy character.  He was, among other things, a pornographer.  It is also reported that he was a sex addict, a pervert, a pedophile, a bisexual, and a swinger.  Apparently he had written a pornographic novel based on his experiences.  Davis happens to be black.

To me, something seemed weird about a ‘decent’, white, middle-class man having an association with a black pedophile pornographer, that included them being drinking partners and making trips together (and taking a young Obama with them) to the ‘redlight district’.  Obviously, Stanley Dunham was not the decent, upright man I had envisioned.

It seems that every day we learn about someone else who was not what we had thought them to be, so that’s not too unusual.  What is unusual, however, (at least I assume it is unusual), is a grandfather turning his beloved grandson over to the care of a man like Frank Marshall Davis.

As I tried to understand more about these two men, and the nature of their relationship, I encountered some theories regarding them–and, unexpectedly, they involved questions of who Obama’s father was.  This was becoming more complicated.

My first impression, after learning about Davis being Obama’s mentor, was that there was probably a sexual relationship involved.  I knew that Davis had a role in Obama’s political career, and I assumed this was a ‘price he had paid’ for Davis’ backing and promoting him.  I believed, if this were true, that it could certainly have caused Obama deep shame and humiliation, and could have been an important factor in his abnormal psychological development.

However, the theories I encountered about his parentage were not as easy to dismiss as I had thought.  I found myself pondering them quite a bit.  I don’t remember how much of my theories were proposed in what I had read, and how much were my own ideas, but after pondering it for awhile, I came away with what seem to me like the three most likely possibilities.  I don’t know whether I’ll have time to look into this further, or whether I’ll leave it to someone else to figure it out, but here are the possibilities I propose as most likely, in no particular order:

  1. Stanley Ann Dunham is Obama’s real mother and Obama’s father is a black man she was with in Seattle.  Ann and her parents’ sudden move to Hawaii was to put distance between them.

    Stanley Ann Dunham

    Stanley Ann Dunham

  2. Frank Marshall Davis is actually Obama’s father, and (Stanley) Ann Dunham is his mother.

    Frank Marshall Davis

    Frank Marshall Davis

  3. Stanley Armour Dunham is Obama’s real father, and a black woman (possibly a prostitute) is his mother.  This could  be a result of his trips to the redlight district, and Davis could be his ongoing connection to the woman–or her connection to Obama. This theory proposes that the family’s move to Hawaii was a cover, and that Ann posed as Obama’s mother for the early years of his life, and then went off to pursue her own ambitions.  In this scenario (as possibly with others) Obama’s real birthdate is not the one commonly reported.  It is said that Stanley badly wanted a son–hence his naming his daughter ‘Stanley’.

    Stanley Armour Dunham

    Stanley Armour Dunham

In all 3 of the theories, Barack Obama Sr. is not the real father.  It is not implausible that Ann could find a young black student to marry her and pose as Obama’s father.  Perhaps money was involved.

Barack Obama Sr.

Barack Obama Sr.

It is an interesting observation of one blogger, that it seems rather strange that Stanley Dunham would have nothing but high praise for the man who had abandoned his daughter and 2 year old grandson.

It is not unusual, but worthy of mention that Obama Sr., a foreign student who must have had some potential, ended up going downhill in his personal life after he left Ann & Obama, becoming an alcoholic and eventually dying in a car wreck.

I may be totally off base, but my impression of many alcoholics is that they are people living with a shameful secret and burden of guilt that they cannot bear.

For anyone interested in looking further at these theories, here are some links:

Another Look At Obama’s Origins

familypedia on: Stanley Armour Dunham

Comparing the dates

Do You Recognize This Man?

Update 5/20/11:

Jerome Corsi has uncovered the whole story.  Below are links to a three part interview with him.  Part two gives the most info. on the subject.

part 1: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BygadqqiFH8

part 2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OqvvqGqpkgE

part 3: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6W9z_-eKOG0

Since we have a president who is hell-bent on imposing his agenda on the American people, against the will of more than half of them, I think it is important to get a better understanding of the man.  Hopefully, knowing what ‘makes him tick’ will counter some of the shock and discouragement we face, as he continues to battle conservative Americans.

Although I am not trained in psychology or psychiatry, I am giving my opinion:

I am fully convinced that Barack Obama is a narcissist.

Hotchkiss [Hotchkiss, Sandy & Masterson, James F. Why Is It Always About You? : The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism (2003)]  identified what she called the seven deadly sins of narcissism:

  1. Shamelessness – Shame is the feeling that lurks beneath all unhealthy narcissism, and the inability to process shame in healthy ways.
  2. Magical thinking – Narcissists see themselves as perfect using distortion and illusion known as magical thinking. They also use projection to dump shame onto others.
  3. Arrogance – A narcissist who is feeling deflated may reinflate by diminishing, debasing, or degrading somebody else.
  4. Envy – A narcissist may secure a sense of superiority in the face of another person’s ability by using contempt to minimize the other person.
  5. Entitlement – Narcissists hold unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable treatment and automatic compliance because they consider themselves uniquely special. Any failure to comply will be considered an attack on their superiority and the perpetrator is considered to be an “awkward” or “difficult” person. Defiance of their will is a narcissistic injury that can trigger narcissistic rage.
  6. Exploitation – can take many forms but always involves the using of others without regards for their feelings or interests. Often the other is in a subservient position where resistance would be difficult or even impossible. Sometimes the subservience is not so much real as assumed.
  7. Bad Boundaries – narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that others are separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet their needs or may as well not exist at all. Those who provide narcissistic supply to the narcissist will be treated as if they are part of the narcissist and be expected to live up to those expectations. In the mind of a narcissist, there is no boundary between self and other.

(from Wikipedia: ‘Narcissism’)

“Narcissism can be a considered a self-perceived form of perfectionism. Narcissists often are pseudo-perfectionists and require being the center of attention and create situations where they will receive attention.[6] This attempt at being perfect is cohesive with the grandiose self-image that the narcissist has of him-/herself. If a perceived state of perfection isn’t reached it can lead to guilt, shame, anger or anxiety because he/she believes that he/she will lose the imagined love and admiration from other people if he/she isn’t perfect.[7]”

(from Wikipedia: ‘Narcissistic Rage’)

I don’t think one has to look too deeply at Obama’s childhood to find possible reasons for a boy to feel intense shame: Biracial, absent father, dark skinned but raised by whites, etc..   I think a well-meaning person, who dearly loved this little boy, may have attempted to counter his shame by unwittingly training him to think as a narcissist thinks: overcompensating on building his self-esteem, and actively putting the blame on others.

But he is not alone.  He is just a forerunner of a generation of children with similar stories, raised in a similar way:  Absent fathers, self-absorbed or over-compensating mothers, educational philosophies that overcompensated in building kids’ self-esteem, etc.  Consequently, we have raised a generation  that will prove to have an inordinate number of narcissists and sociopaths, and with most of them having a profound sense of entitlement and an over-inflated sense of their own importance (think ‘divas’ and ‘goddesses’).   Being the forerunner of this generation, it is no wonder that Obama’s message resonated with them.

(Any anger you sense from me is directed towards those who deprived these kids of truth and the ability for honest self-examination.)


Anyhow . . . although I think all of the traits are there, ‘arrogance’ stands out (there was a lot of diminishing, debasing, and degrading of the opposition by Obama, during the healthcare bill fiasco, as his approval numbers kept dropping), as does ‘exploitation’ (as he seems oblivious to the feelings and interests of a large majority of Americans, who oppose the healthcare bill).

But most of all, ‘entitlement’ seems to take center stage:

“Narcissists hold unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable treatment and automatic compliance because they consider themselves uniquely special. Any failure to comply will be considered an attack on their superiority and the perpetrator is considered to be an “awkward” or “difficult” person. Defiance of their will is a narcissistic injury that can trigger narcissistic rage.”

Within minutes of passing the bill, lawsuits were filed to challenge it’s constitutionality.  Then, yesterday, a supreme court justice decided it would be a good time to retire.  Here is my conjecture:

  • I think Obama ‘had a little talk’ with the justice, convincing him that now would be a good time to go.
  • I think whoever Obama appoints is going to be intended as a punishment to his opponents.
  • And, although he looks unfazed, Obama is seething on the inside.

Filing a challenge to his healthcare bill displays defiance, rather than compliance, which he sees as an attack on his authority and superiority, and it may very well trigger narcissistic rage.  (I was pretty confident we’d be seeing it sooner or later–and I think there is a rough road ahead for conservatives, because I expect him to escalate his battle.)  I am curious as to whether his rage will be open and evident, or passive-aggressive.

Apparently there are different types of narcissism, I believe this one fits him very well:

Aggressive narcissism

  • Glibness/superficial charm
  • Grandiose sense of self-worth
  • Pathological lying
  • Cunning/manipulative
  • Lack of remorse or guilt
  • Shallow affect
  • Callous/lack of empathy
  • Failure to accept responsibility for own actions.

(from Wikipedia: ‘Narcissism’)

Here is an explanation of ‘narcissistic rage’:

According to Kohut,[1] rages are a result of the shame at being faced with failure. Narcissistic rage is the uncontrollable and unexpected anger that results from a narcissistic injury. Narcissistic injury is a threat to a narcissist’s self-esteem or worth. Rage comes in many forms, but all pertain to the same important thing, revenge.

Narcissistic rages are based on fear and will endure even after the threat is gone.[5] To the narcissist, the rage is directed towards the person that they feel has slighted them; to other people, the rage is incoherent and unjust. This rage impairs their cognition, therefore impairing their judgment. During the rage they are prone to shouting, fact distortion and making groundless accusations. It is believed that narcissists have two layers of rage. The first layer of rage can be thought of as a constant anger (towards someone else), and the second layer being a self-aimed wrath. Two specific identified forms of narcissistic rage are explosive and passive-aggressive.

The explosive form being an obvious anger, for example, damaging property (or people) and being verbally abusive. The passive-aggressive sort might be sulking or giving their target the silent treatment. They can become enraged to the point of being homicidal especially if he/she has the need to seek revenge.[6] Narcissistic rage is usually short-term, but can provoke problems with those towards whom the anger is targeted.

(from Wikipedia: ‘Narcissistic Rage’)

We are all flawed.  It would be unreasonable to expect our leaders to be perfect.  But some flaws demand that we be especially watchful and vigilant.  If Obama is who I think he is, he could become a very dangerous man if he doesn’t get his way.  The next time we win a battle with him, consider that, and don’t cheer quite so loudly.

Update 7/12/10

another interesting post about ‘People of the Lie’

It’s interesting when someone, who knows nothing about you, tells you something about yourself that you didn’t know–and it’ sure makes them look ridiculous when they’re wrong!

Jimmy Carter says I’m a racist. Hmm . . . really? Lets consider the source. I used to admire Mr. Carter. Because of his work with Habitat for Humanity, I figured he must just be a wonderful guy. However, according to the Secret Service Agents that served him during his time in the White House, he was a real ‘piece of work’ (my words).

Apparently he treated these people with contempt, in the typical southern plantation style. ‘Agents were not allowed to address him directly or make eye contact when he passed’. And he often prevailed upon them to do menial tasks for him that were not in their job description. Without going into the details, I’ll summarize by saying he was VERY different when the cameras weren’t around, and went to great lengths to put on a facade for them. (More details can be found in the August 2009 issue of Newsmax.)

It has been my experience that liars think everyone is a liar, and cheaters think everyone is a cheater, etc. People often project their own character flaws onto others when they make accusations. As the old saying goes ‘it takes one to know one’. So with that in mind, and in light of what I learned about his character, I would be fairly confident in betting that Mr. Carter is a racist. He may have learned to mask it, but if he treated even his bodyguards with contempt (and they were probably white), what are the chances he sees blacks as equals?

I point this out, not necessarily to malign Mr. Carter, but to show that this is a ridiculous accusation, from someone whose opinion probably shouldn’t be given too much weight in regards to issues of prejudice.

If memory serves me, one of the big theories among the radicals of the sixties is that there would be a revolution and a race war. Now these radicals are running the show. One of their main objectives is to cause chaos and dismantle our current government and society so that they can replace it with a Communist/New Age regime. If you are black, I have a question for you: are you being provoked to start a race war?

Thankfully, it appears most people aren’t taking the bait. I have rarely met a racist. I know racism exists in America. I know polygamy exists in America, and pedophilia, and slavery, and a host of other despicable things. But I don’t think there are many people who can say that is their normal experience of life in America. I don’t believe it is widespread. There are pockets of it, sure. But if that is what you are seeing day to day, perhaps you should consider moving to another town. There are certainly plenty of places to go where you will be appreciated and respected for who you are!

(And, if this is your experience, after you get out-please expose it! There are a lot of us white folks who would like to stamp out racism, so lets bring it into the light and deal with it.)

I cannot imagine what it is like to be born into the land of your grandparents’ oppressors. What white men inflicted on the Negroes, Native Americans, and others, is despicable, abominable, and without excuse!

I think many whites feel shame over what their forefathers did. However, you can only push that so far! We will apologize and try to make right, UP TO A POINT but, just as you were not the ones who were enslaved, we were not slaveholders. A couple of generations have passed, and we will not take the responsibility for the sins of our ancestors upon ourselves. We are sorry. They will have to stand before God and be judged for what they did.

I can assure you I have always been opposed to slavery and would actively be working with the underground railroad, if I were living in that time. However, I’m pretty sure you are not going to like the rest of what I have to say. I’ll tell you the basis for my attitude souring over the past decade or so, because I believe it’s happening with others too, and I believe you have the right to understand why.

Some blacks keep on pushing, and they are the ones I see. Being white, I am not in your home, your church or your neighborhood. I don’t see the full extent of your culture. What I do see is just a slice–I don’t think it represents most African Americans, at least I sure hope it doesn’t. It is the rude, loud, arrogant, disrespectful, in-your-face part. The gangster wannabe part. The violent, profane, rap music part. The pants-falling-off-the-butt part. I don’t care about the color of your skin, or where your ancestors were from–what I care about is your attitude!

The generation that fought for civil rights was a proud and respectful generation. I think they would roll over in their graves at the way the younger generation is undoing the respect they fought for! They seemed to understand that, if you want to be respected, you need to behave respectfully.

Some people bring on their own problems. If they come into a quiet neighborhood with rap music blasting profanity and their pants falling off their butt, and they want to rent a house there, they shouldn’t be surprised if they are turned away! If they were white, it would be the same! If they present themself in a way that would scare customers back out the door–they shouldn’t be surprised if they don’t get the job!

It certainly seems to be in vogue lately to throw out accusations of racism. You’ve probably heard the old story of ‘The Boy Who Cried Wolf’ . . . the story of a boy who liked to get the village people all riled up by calling ‘wolf’ so they would run out to protect him. He did it so often that, pretty soon everybody was on to him and paid him no more attention. Then, one day, there really was a wolf, and nobody believed him or came to his aid. Enough said?

If you think I am discriminating against you, I just might be–but don’t be so quick to assume it’s because of the color of your skin. What is your attitude? What do the lyrics of your music say about you? Because, if you are blasting it loudly, I’m going to assume you are using it as a way of speaking your mind. And, last but not least, maybe I’m just afraid of interacting with you. Not afraid you’ll cut my throat, but afraid that, despite my best intentions, I’m going to end up doing or saying something that offends you.

The other thing I’m going to say is this: I have seen many more people of color who are racist than whites who are. In fact, it seems to be the approved attitude in black culture today. I think if I hear ‘ . . . it’s because I’m black’ one more time, I’m going to scream! Sometimes, claiming racism is just a copout!

To me, constantly bringing the issue of race into things is a pretty good indicator that the person who does so is a racist. Believe it or not, a person’s race rarely crosses my mind, and even more rarely does it influence my decisions! I believe that’s true of most of the white folks I know.

From what I’ve seen, most whites don’t give much thought to race. (I guess it’s easier not to if you weren’t the ones who were oppressed.) But, an unintended consequence of making accusations of racism is that it is training us to think of race, where in the past we wouldn’t have. And, being that the focus on it is happening in such a negative way, I don’t feel like it is creating more understanding between us. Instead, I think it is dividing us into 2 camps, and none of us has a choice which camp we end up in, because it is based on the color of our skin–something none of us had a choice in.

Are you sure you are a victim of racism? Or, are you being baited to start a revolution? Are you angry about your own experiences, or are you being provoked by the words of others? Are you being told the truth–or are you being used to further someone else’s agenda?

I can understand being angry if you don’t feel like you’re being treated fairly. However, the way you choose to try to resolve it will have a lot to do with the results you’ll achieve.

So, what do you want to accomplish? Do you want to continue to be angry and adversarial? Do you want to increase racism? All these accusations are certainly increasing racism among young blacks! Think of the example it sets for them! If you can’t get past the anger, then lets TALK.

Or, do you want to turn it around? If you’re ready to change it, here is something that may help:

What you may not realize is that people tend to reflect back what you project to them. If you project anger and mistrust at them, they’re likely to reflect that back on you. But, if you project yourself as a calm, rational, confident person that is equal to them, that’s how you’ll likely be treated.

I think a lot of black people simply don’t understand that’s how relationships with whites work. People that mouth off and try to be threatening are the ones who meet with the most resistance. Those who project themselves as inferior are going to attract people that treat them as if they are.

When you interact with most whites, except the ridiculously arrogant ‘elite’, you’ll be treated the way you want if you are polite, calm, rational and confident.

Slavery is behind us. You have been given the full rights of citizenship. I think you can safely assume that the majority of us see you as equals. (As far as the few that don’t-they have a problem, and they make us uncomfortable too.) From our point of view, we are confused as to why you keep on fighting. You’ve already won! Just live the part!

Racism & Lincoln

. . . It’s About Freedom!!